The Muzzled Voice

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Today is tax day. April 15, 2009. I paid my taxes at the beginning of the year, and today I’m sitting up in bed, not feeling well, gathering my thoughts about what’s happening around our country today.

I’m feeling guilty for not attending the Anti-Tax Tea Party up in Madison today. I’ve been a huge opponent of the stimulus package, and have voiced my opinion, politically, about many things I disagree with, especially concerning this current administration.

I truly wanted to be involved in this process today. I wanted to be able to tell my son, when he gets older, that his parents were involved in a huge part of history to stand up and be heard on issues that ultimately will affect him and his future. I was the one who eagerly encouraged many people to become active in this protest. But I’m not there today.

My mom is suffering from recurring breast cancer, which is incurable. Monday we spent most of the day at the hospital with her, as she is in constant pain from her chemo treatments. And yesterday we spent the day in Chicago, as Jared, once again, had to make another emergency visit to the doctor about his knee, which isn’t getting any better. And we decided earlier in the day yesterday that we would make the 2 hour trip up to Madison to be involved, to be heard, and to be the kind of people who stand up for their beliefs.

There are many reasons we didn’t go. We were exhausted over the past few days, we had already missed out on work and didn’t want to take yet another day off without pay, and Jared’s knee doesn’t fair well as he sits still for long periods of time. And let’s not forget I’m 8 months pregnant and in constant need of a nearby bathroom. Fortunately we decided late last night that we wouldn’t go. I had a rough night and didn’t sleep well, and woke up feeling horrible.

But here’s what truly concerned me: People who don’t care, or believe Obama is doing the right thing, or continue to blame Bush for everything that continues to go wrong in the world, are making those of us who are FINALLY standing up and trying to be heard, out to be racists, neoconservatives, or simply ignorant.

I’ve been watching Fox News today, trying to see what’s going on out there and what I’m missing. And last night I told Jared the exact thing one reporter said: There’s not much confidence in this administration or this Congress, for the people to be taken seriously. Although every state has various Tea Parties going on today, still, no one is listening. Obama instead came out with yet another teleprompter speech about the economy and how he “won’t” raise taxes. As I listened, I noticed numerous contradictions to what he said a mere few weeks ago about taxing the rich and the small businesses. But he had to say all this so those of us who understand the reality of what will take place with his trillion dollar spending package would look moronic.

I said last night, “What does it really matter? No one listens to the average, everyday, conservative person.” We are the minority. We typically don’t scream and shout at people and tell them how stupid they are. Instead, we try to do things by the book and we believe in our rights, although constantly violated, and hope that Americans and politicians will do the right thing for the country as a whole, and not just the loons on the left who truly don’t have a clue about right and wrong anymore. But we have been looked upon as scum, as worthless, as vile human beings who are just prejudice and hate mongers. No one truly cares about how we feel, or what we believe anymore. Our voice doesn’t matter, and they are trying to do everything in their power to muzzle our voices.

I’m sick to death of the Bush-bashing that is endlessly taking place. The blame game Obama and his lackeys are playing is getting old, and it’s nothing more than a way to pass the buck so no one will pay attention to their role in the whole economic mess we’re currently suffering. Let’s not forget that Bush bailed out the banks in October, and both candidates agreed to this idea. After that, Obama won the election, and since then has bailed out the banks again, and may yet do so one more time. So why keep bashing Bush for the same things Obama is currently doing, only a hundred times worse? Why keep focusing on the past mistakes, and instead find better solutions? It didn’t work. We get that. But to put Bush down and continue supporting Obama is a contradiction I can’t bear to endure anymore. It’s hypocritical and an absolute cop-out. Obama is making the matter worse, not better, and to believe otherwise is truly ignorant.

The blind faith the American people have put in Obama is unnerving. It will have detrimental effects on our country and the future of our children. No matter what he says NOW, we will pay the price when he realizes that his tiny plan of the rich paying the cost of his inexperienced and egomaniacal spending package didn’t work.

Take a look at the states that took the money. They are currently raising taxes. Why? Because they NEED A WAY TO PAY FOR IT.

I admire the governors who stood firm and said NO to this money, because they understood what it would ultimately do to the taxpayers. They were thinking of the people, rather than their own greed. And now, this arrogant President thinks he can overlook the constitution and FORCE these governors to take dirty money they don’t care to take and inflict more cost onto the people.

I’m not stupid. I understand that the media and the fascist left will always make me look like I don’t know the truth. That doesn’t mean that I shut up and give up. It just means I get smart about it. Protests never got anyone anywhere. I’ve written my Senators on many occasions. They don’t care. They aren’t listening. I don’t matter anymore.

I don’t have confidence that people like me, who still believe in morals and values, will have much of a voice in the world anymore. I think the left has gone too far, and too many self-righteous people refuse to admit they are wrong. We are ALLOWING injustices to take place, and overlooking the obvious. We’re too concerned about hurting other people’s feelings, rather than taking care of ourselves.

I hope that those who stood up and spoke out today will be heard. But I don’t think that “we the people” really matter to “those the greedy.” And this ridiculousness will be something we not only have to endure for the next four years, but for the rest of our lifetime. When the damage is done, there’s no turning back. And the package has been signed, sealed and delivered. What we say now has no impact on what this administration says or does here out.

This Tea Party should have been done long ago. It should have been done when Obama and Pelosi started spewing their ignorant, self-bloated spending package to the people. But they forced it through. They did it without even knowing themselves what was in it. They crammed it down our throat and made a hasty effort to make sure the American people didn’t know what was in it, either. They gave us no choice in the matter. And they didn’t allow us to speak in a timely manner…and that’s why they pushed it through so quickly.

Everyone keeps talking about how this administration is “transparent,” I couldn’t disagree more. This has been the sneakiest President, administration, and Congress I’ve known in my lifetime…possibly in history.

I’d like to believe that being active makes a difference, but I’m not sure anyone cares to hear what conservatives have to say anymore. It’s no wonder we’ve all just went silent. And what’s the answer to that? How do we fight to be heard? How do we win the battle that is being fought against us at every turn? How do we protect the family, and faith, and our freedoms? How do we teach our children to resist the greedy ways of the world when it’s shoved in our face everyday? How do we even recognize right from wrong when so many lines are crossed? What do we do when there seems to be nothing left to do? A protest? A reenactment of a tea party that didn’t work back then, and won’t work today?

Both sides are to blame. Both parties. But no one is more to blame than the American people who continue to let these injustices take place. Some are saying today, “We’re not going to take it anymore,” but really…what does that mean if no one listens?

Politics aside…

So this morning I woke up to a snow covered existence outside, stretched, yawned, grabbed my robe and took a nice warm shower. Afterwards, I plopped myself at the computer and began working. I started getting hungry, since my last meal was at 5 PM last night. I didn’t want a big breakfast; I didn’t even want a slice of toast like I usually do. Instead, I wanted a bowl of dry cereal to have with my glass of milk. So I got up, waddled to the kitchen and opened the cabinet door. Out of all the boxes of cereal we had, I chose the Jewel brand of “Crunchy Corn Squares”, the generic version of Corn Chex. What I saw on the back of the box STUNNED me! I was utterly appalled!!

“Family UNPLUGGED” it read, in fun, retro letters. “Imagine all the things you could do instead of watching television! Unplug the tube and grab your family,” the box informed. So…what can you do if you turn off the TV and spend time with your family? Well, it went on:

“You could…volunteer your time at a soup kitchen. Work on a jigsaw puzzle. Try a new recipe. Go for a walk. Play catch. Arrange photos into a family scrapbook. Plan a day trip. Research your family tree. Play board games. Or…clean out your closets and hold a family yard sale. Ride bikes. Fly kites. Plant some flowers. Go for a drive. Play cards. Go on a picnic. Play charades. Catch fireflies. Go bowling. Roller blade. Ice skate.”

So I take the box out to the living room and scream, “Can you believe this?” to Jared and his mother. They both look at me, surprised by my outburst. And I read the box to them out loud. They look at me blankly. Jared’s not surprised, nor is he outraged. Timi, Jared’s mother, finally gets it after I explain what this box means.

The ideas on the box sound great, right? So why am I so outraged by this box? (First of all, let me first state, KUDOS to Jewel for putting something so brave and yet so ordinary on the back of their box.) I’m not upset with Jewel and the box, per say, what I’m angered about is the mere fact that ANYONE has to tell us–on a cereal box of all things–how to “be” a family! And who is the audience of the Back of the Box? It’s our children. It’s kids who don’t KNOW what a family is. It’s geared to teach CHILDREN what a family SHOULD be doing. But this is what we’ve become. Complacent. Lazy. Numb.

To me, all of these things listed on the Back of the Box were GIVENS! It just makes sense. And I wasn’t concerned that someone else was telling me how to be a family, because I already knew these things. I had already done these very things with Josh when he was growing up, and we still do some of these things! I plan on doing ALL of these things with Tavin and Jared. In fact, I can’t wait!!

What I don’t understand is a family who DOESN’T do these things. What I don’t get is the fact that a cereal company has to spell it out for 80% of society today. As I continued to hold the box up to Jared and Timi, ranting on and on about this injustice, I played a scenario out for them: “Hey dad, look at the Back of the Box. It says we should do…” And the dad literally pushes the child out of the view of the TV and says, “Not now, Bobby, I’m watching the game. We’ll do all those things some other time when daddy’s not so busy.”

Now Jared wasn’t outraged for one reason: When we see what we see out in the world today, and we encounter children and families out in public, we can literally SEE that the family unit is broken! We can see the children vying for their parents attention and affection. It’s everywhere. It’s overwhelming. It’s a shame! Granted we all see it, day in and day out, but the Back of the Box really confirmed my suspicions about what’s happening in the world.

The Back of the Box is politely and attractively telling us to get off our lazy butts and pay attention to our children! And what about the poor child who reads the Back of the Box and desperately wants to do these things with a parent who is unwilling to take the time to do them? What really disturbs me is that the child who sees this list and thinks, “This would be so much fun,” but has no idea what it truly means to be a family who does things together, or worse yet, realizes that even if he were to show the Back of the Box to his parents, it may not ever happen that way. 

Why does the outside world have to explain the very basics of life to us? Why isn’t it common sense anymore? Why are people having children in the first place, if they don’t take the time to BE a family? The world is breaking down because the family is broken. There’s no true sense of the word anymore.

I recently started volunteering at a food shelter called Angel Food Ministries (http://www.angelfoodministries.com/). It’s a nationwide, non-profit organization offering wide varieties of monthly food menus to low income families at a very low cost…but it’s also available to ANYONE! There are no limitations or requirements.

I got involved for one reason: to be an example to Tavin. To show him that in order to make a real difference in the world, you need to be the kind of person who is willing to do what it takes to actually make a difference. Talking about it isn’t enough. Explaining to our children that it’s important to help the needy, while walking away from a homeless person who is cold and hungry, isn’t setting the right example. But by DOING it–by caring with our actions–we are teaching our children the real values, the real ethics, of humanity and compassion.

Angel Food Ministries isn’t my only outlet. I’ve volunteered my name to become a board member for Angel Food Ministries and to further help the cause of the homeless. I’m also going to reorganize the Kenosha County Republican Women’s Group, and although it’s a political group, the example I will be setting for Tavin is to stand up for what he believes in, and take an active role to have his voice heard. He may not grow up to be a Republican, and that’ll be just fine with me. As long as he’s not just a Talker, but a real Doer, in what he believes as his core foundation…that’s all that will truly matter to me.

Being a parent does take time. But that’s something we should all realize before we even make the “choice” to BE a parent! No longer does your career/job take first place, nor does your spouse/significant other. That child is now your first and foremost priority in life! YOU need to be the example. YOU need to be the love–all the love in the world–that he/she needs. YOU need to be the person to teach them right and wrong, not the school system, not the church, and NOT the outside world, like the Back of the Box. It is up to YOU to BE the family your child so desperately needs to become a good person in this dark, cruel world–to help BE a light in the world. Show your children. Don’t just talk about it. Be a family. Be a strong family unit that the world just can’t touch!